Focus On The Good Not The Bad

What do you see when looking in the mirror?

Too often we focus on what we do not like. For me it is my knees. Weird, yes I know. I am not tall and feel that my knees make my legs look wide, therefore I will not buy a dress or skirt that sits on the knee or just above it. I believe if I do your attention is drawn to the one area I do not want to look at. 

Instead I need to remind myself that there are other features I can enhance and that is the same for my clients. I am amazed when I walk through a mirror strategy process where each client will focus. Now, you can never assume that each time they call out a body part that they dislike it, although more often than not they have a negative view point. 

Love what you see in the mirror and be kind to yourself. I promise you have many features you can play up and be proud of. The tricks are drawing attention to the areas of your body you want to show off. Play around with colour and fit to create the illusion of shape. Know the power of accessories to create a statement and direct the eye-line of someone standing in front of you. Colour can be your best friend, know what you can wear close to your face and do not create any rules about colours that you can or cannot wear. It is all about the placement of the said colours.

I have some clients say they do not own a mirror. It is important you do a final check in the mirror to feel confident in what you are wearing. Do a circle and look at all angles. You will then have a clear view of what is working well on you. I know staring at yourself can be confronting although look past the faults (let's be clear faults that only you see) and find the good and not just the bad.

Tell me what part of your body you love and what part do you want to hide?





Who Makes Up Your Tribe?

It would seem that the saying 'you are who you hang with' is quite relevant. If you are going to spend countless hours with someone, you would firstly want to like them, that they make you happy, they would inspire and challenge you and most all be honest with you.

Whilst holidaying in Noosa and spending a great deal of time walking the National Park you had a birds eye view of the ocean and sprinkled throughout were many surfers, waiting for the perfect wave. It resonated with me that they were their own tribe. A very bronzed, athletic, salty hair tribe. 

They would tell you the sport is individual, there are no winners or losers, it is you being at one with the ocean. The one place I truly believe tech gadgets can have no place. Yet when you are watching them; they are grouped together, patiently waiting to take their turn. The elements of the environment are at play - wind, swell, direction, tides all have to align for the surfer to consider hitting the water. Having previously spent time working at an iconic surf company and living at the beach you learn a thing or two, and there are a number of unwritten rules that govern the sea and make for a happy tribe; give right of way, don't drop in, don't ditch your board, respect the beach - you get my drift (pun intended). 

This surfing tribe made me think of how each individual out there is probably quite different from the other although the passion for the sport of surfing is one way they are drawn together. This reminded me of John C Maxwell's writing, where he talks about achieving success with intent - to surround yourself with like-valued people. 

Do those who surround you, help you be the person you want to be? If not, then start to think about what type of values drive you and what you want in others who make up your tribe. Those who care for you and drive you forward are those that should be allowed to grab a board and hit the surf with you. Now, they do not have to be 'yes people', even though that is great for your ego. You want someone that will tell you if what you are wearing is not your best look, if your behaviour is out of line or to tell you to 'harden up' when you have spent too much time venting about a situation you should have moved on from. 

Stop and ask yourself - who makes up your tribe? Are they worthy or do you need to 'wipe out' someone or a few of them and find a new break? 

Noosa National Park 

Noosa National Park